Marriage: Living the American Cliché

I shouldn’t go as far as calling it an ‘American‘ cliché but I digress. Marriage to me is pretty much pointless. You spend tremendous amounts of time and money trying to find the one. Most of your resources is wasted on others. It’s like trying to find a needle in a haystack. You set yourself up for emotional heartbreak and hurt. A lot of people are cheated on or discover dark secrets about their partner. Most people aren’t virgins so marriage is pointless. Even if you do find the one and get married, half of all marriages end in divorce. If you are a guy you lose almost everything in a divorce. Money, house, car, everything; and that includes your children usually. So why put yourself at risk? What is the point?

Not only that but why should I need a piece of paper and some piece of metal on my ‘ring’ finger to display my love for someone? Marriage basically to me is like owning a piece of property and I’m no one’s property and I don’t want someone as MY property.

People often times grow up wanting a family, kids and that Pickett white fence with the golden retriever digging a hole in the front lawn; the American cliché. Others want to get married because their parents got married and still are together. All for the sake of having a woman to call ‘wife’. It’s not about the longevity of said marriage and the fear of it not lasting. It’s not that I’m scared of getting married or anything, I just simply find it a waste of time, money and energy.

Why can’t two people just be together? What’s the difference in being girlfriend and boyfriend and husband and wife? I really don’t see a difference between the two. When two people love each other, you don’t need a piece of government endorsed paper that says so. You don’t need the ring, the vows, the wasted ink and paper. Marrying just to marry is just as pointless as the concept of marriage.

What will change once the marriage license is signed? Will I feel different from the seconds before I signed it? Rainbows and unicorns are going to start flowing out my ass, what? I can understand if marriage was some type of cultural nonsense but it’s not and it doesn’t help that I’m an Atheist. There’s no real reason to get married except for religious reasons and I’m not religious so I don’t see the point in getting married. Marriage isn’t for everyone. & if I hurt anyone’s feelings about my decision well there’s nothing I can do or say. I can’t bow down to everyone’s whim just because they want me to. I must do what I feel is in my heart. But do you really need a certificate to say that you love your partner? I don’t.

A marriage is pointless because there is nothing sacred about the ceremony itself, the notion however is respectable. Unfortunately, ceremoniously declaring your love for one another outside a religious context has no legal validity. It’s atrocious how interlocked everything is with religion.

If you truly love someone unconditionally, you don’t need to religiously or legally tie them down.

Listen folks, if you are lucky enough to find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, don’t ruin it by thinking a marriage is necessary; it’s not. Just stay as you are. Don’t complicate things because that’s when it goes wrong. If somewhere down the line the feeling change and things don’t work out, you can just cut your losses and go your separate ways. No need for divorce lawyers and all that emotional stress that comes with it.

For the record before someone else like that sad case JT who was speaking out of his own mistakes and frustration make another assumption, I’m HAPPILY taken.