Confusing ‘Neglect’ with ‘Having a Life’…

First and foremost lets look up the word neglect shall we?

Neglect; verb:

1. to pay no attention or too little attention to; disregard or slight
2. an act or instance of neglecting.

It has came to my attention that when someone is busy; you know, having a life. Taking care of business, trying to get in school, look after the family. Not having any time for the significant other is considered ‘neglect’. I haven’t disregarded that this person wants to see me but its not that this person didn’t know I was busy. Its also not like I didn’t tell this person that I was going to busy a month ago. I gave this person a heads up and he didn’t seem to have a problem with it. I had to log in to Facebook and read a status about how I’m neglecting this person to know that this person feels ‘neglected’. I talk to this person via Facebook and via Yahoo Messenger and phone at least once a day, why couldn’t he tell me then that he felt like I was disregarding his presence, I’ll never know. He have my number as well, he could of called.

People need to stop tossing these words around and having tantrums just because they miss someone and I can’t get around to seeing them. I’m in Cleveland, Ohio, this person stays miles and miles away from me. You know how much it is to travel on bus going one way? $2.25 and its $5.00 for an all day pass, not only that its stressful. That’s no excuse but I’m trying to be financially stable, I want to be comfortable knowing I don’t have to rely on someone else to get to and fro. I need to get my life in order, I can’t really worry about seeing anyone because they miss me. Them missing me isn’t going to get me through school, get a job, help my family out or put money in my pockets.

Some would say that maybe I shouldn’t of started a relationship if I knew I wasn’t going to have time for them. Well, that would be the case if I knew my life was going to be this busy but it is. If I could stop the world and make time for everyone who wants to see me I would but life don’t work that way. Either he’s gone have to get used to this now or move on with his life. I have enough issues without someone misusing the word ‘neglect’ because I’m having a life. I may sound selfish but its time I did something with my life and staying home making money on the computer by designing fliers, myspace layouts etc and building/fixing PC‘s isn’t going to secure my future. Its been fun but its time to get off my ass.

What’s going to happen when I get two jobs? Is he gone log into his Facebook and tell the world that I’m ‘neglecting’ him making me look like the bad guy? I never liked people who victimized themselves with no true relevance to it. Maybe I’m no better, I’m on WordPress talking about it. Its messed up though that he neglected the fact that I told him that I was gone be busy. Its NOT like I didn’t tell him this back in April. I feel I shouldn’t even talk about it to him. I’ll let him have his tantrum or whatever, he’ll get over it. I know for a fact that I won’t be pulling the neglect card though whenever he have a life.