Why Am I Wrong For Being Faithful?

I get hassled on and offline by men who believe that being faithful at such a young age [I'm 21, that's pretty damn old isn't it?] is stupid or “retarded” as they put it. I know I shouldn’t care what others think about what I do in a relationship but it seems like being unfaithful is the thing to do these days. Their arguments once they’re confronted is, “what they don’t know won’t hurt them” every time. I don’t believe in that, I believe that what they don’t know will hurt not only them but me. I can’t cheat and still be able to smile in my boyfriends face everyday. I have to apologize to them for having a heart, morals, decency and respect because its like I did something to offend them.

What’s wrong with being with one person and one person only? Why am I in the wrong for having a comfortable relationship? When did it become wrong to not be interested in cheating on someone you care about? Why am I the bad guy for thinking of my actions before doing them?

I stand on what I believe in 100% and I believe if I have to cheat on someone to get what I want then I shouldn’t be with them to begin with. I would break up with that person if I’m not happy before I cheat on them. I wouldn’t want to be cheated on so why would I cheat on them?

When I tell these men that I’m taken they go on and tell me they can make me cheat on my boyfriend because they are that confident in themselves. I don’t know how much I can stress to these men but they can’t make me do anything I don’t want to do. I do not give in to temptation on any circumstances. Its not because I believe in Karma because I don’t, its not because I fear getting caught nor is it because I’m scared. I don’t believe in cheating period. Have I thought about cheating? Yes, but not in that sense. I’ve thought about what it would be like if I cheated. I was putting myself in hypothetical terms and it wasn’t pretty but other than that, no. I’m happy with who I’m with, have been for 4 going on 5 years now.

We have our ups and downs but what relationship doesn’t? Its all about making it work, making it last, making it succeed. If you’re happy with that person and he completes you, you have no reason to cheat on him. Women; after they’ve been caught cheating, they’re crying about how they didn’t know what they had until it was gone. They only have themselves to blame for that, they cheated or neglected him and now they’re crying. My life is too short to be playing children games. I’m not going to take what I have for granted for one second. I see all these failed marriages and relationships and it makes me wonder why they got with them only to depart after 2-3 months.

I can’t say I haven’t gotten my heart broken because then that would be a lie. I was taken for granted a few times in a relationship and been dumped as well. They all though tried to wiggle themselves back into my life after I bandaged up my heart and moved on. Men are a victim of not knowing what they had until its gone as well but I’m not on that subject. The fact that I get scolded for loving one man and one man only gets depressing after a while and I want to know what am I doing wrong? Even my family tell me I’m too young to be “strapped down” to one man. Well sorry but I don’t want to have a little black book, I want a relationship thats meaningful and with purpose, and I have that.

I don’t know about most women but I think having all those men to keep up with can be stressful right? Especially if you’re singing to all these men a different tune. You have to lie to keep up with the lie that was used to cover up another lie. Women have gray hairs and they’re still in their 20′s because they’re stressing themselves out over a man that’s probably doing the same things to her.