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Its been a lot of … *pause* …dare I say it…bitchassness… going around with men allowing themselves to be boyfriend #2.  I would expect this type of behavior from females mostly, not males. I’ve had recent conversations with men who found it okay to be someone on the side. & here I thought females had no dignity or pride, and the fact that men are lowering themselves is absolutely unacceptable. Well in any case the society frowns upon this when men do it, not so much when females do it. That’s just how things are… anyway, this is how a conversation would go with these ‘men’…

Him: hi u doin? [I've notice people can't differentiate from how and hi now a days or people have gotten that damn lazy.]
Me: I’m fine, I guess.
Him: u got a man sweety?
Me: Yes I do.
Him: well i can b boyfriend #2!
Me: Sorry not interested.
Him: if ur wit me u can neva lose, ull win!
Me: How do you know that? Are you that confident in yourself that you allow such idiotic statements spew from you fingers?
Him: wat?
Me: Its called English…
Him: oh…
Him: come on ma’ u kno u dont want 2 b wit him. [Why do men do that? Its like, they get stupid when they get rejected for being a desperate idiot.]
Me: If I didn’t, I would of left him…I don’t even know why I’m wasting my time conversing with you. You seem like a person with the I.Q of an empty packet of Kool-Aid. Goodbye. [This is where I block them cause if I don't, the bitches and "i got 2 many bitchez or hoes 2 b worried bout u" get to flying.]

Str8 thuggin‘ is blocked from contacting you.

My question(s) is this, why do that to yourselves? How can you allow yourself to be with someone that loves and want someone else and is probably playing you? If it even play out where the female accepts your offer and decides to have you on the side. What do you get out of lowering yourself like that? Well just in case I don’t have the definition right, lets take a trip to that fail of dictionary, UrbanDictionary.com…

Boyfriend #2 – Someone who likes having a girlfriend with a main squeeze. They prefer being the guy on the side so their feelings are not hurt.

Hell, if their feelings aren’t hurt, I can think a few other things that are. What makes you want to be someone on the side like its some type of sport or chore? I expect this out of females more than anything. Its like, you know she adores the guy she is with but instead of taking no for an answer you rather make her offer that she can and probably will refuse if she have any self-respect for herself. I hope you don’t think you’re being a “playa” by being someone’s second boyfriend. If anything she’s the “playa” and not you.

Its basically cheating if anything, and if she’s cheating on boyfriend #1 with you 9 times out of 10 there’s a boyfriend #3. If you call that ‘love’ then you’re a sick puppy. If you like someone that much, just let her know how you feel and let her decide on what she want, don’t suggest that you be boyfriend #2 before you even know if the feeling is mutual or not. That’s just idiotic! Even if the feeling is mutual or not, if she feel that she likes you more than her main squeeze then let her leave him or whatever and make you that boyfriend #1, don’t be a desperate, sad, pathetic, inconsiderate idiot all because of some chick.